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Name: Joseph Location: Arizona, United States Birthday: 7/22/1984 Gender: Male
Interests: Classical Antiquity, contemplating the nature of things (currently fascinated with Lucretius), philosophy, theology, the desk in center complex!, attempting to understand the value of art and the Humanities (since I may be devoting my life to it, and specifically the [potentially] least relevant branch) Expertise: Ha, well, I wouldn't say I'm really an expert on anything. Though, I do this snappy thing with my fingers...... I guess you'd have to see it in person. Occupation: Student Industry: Education/Research
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| no longer does that Muse welcome the harvest sown and nurtured by her uncanny sway yet this soil itself barren teems with life a sacred mystery a yearning violent in its recklessness tearing through the serene surface in order to bask in the light of truth the source so distant
already ripe with memories laughter best when loud discourse trivial and grave shared excitement in the midst of routine monotony the salty taste of tear-stained cheeks kissed gently
but left rotting this fruit falls back to the dirt embracing it happily I choke on the sweetest putrefaction
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| I was thinking about a tradition which has developed in the church I used to attend. I’ve been reading about evolution and wondering what effects our genetic history has on our behavior, our values, and us generally as social creatures. Bees don’t have crazy large brains but they do some crazy complex things. We call them ‘social’ for a reason. Maybe I shouldn’t have said anything about all that. I am well aware that it is too easy to cite evolution as the uber-explanation for everything, and I won’t dare mention Memes. I just have the feeling that it was this reading that prompted the following reaction. On the Christmas Eve service, it’s always packed, everyone is dressed up, hugs and handshakes abound. There’s a point at which they call up all the children and read the ‘Christmas story’ – census, Mary & Joseph, no room at the inn, baby Jesus, wise men, shepherds, hallelujah, etc. In a room of hundreds of people there’re a lot of kids. When called, several dozen stream up to the front and sit down on this graded platform-step thing in front of the stage around the children’s pastor who reads. Over the years they’ve found versions more appealing to kids, with little responses they get to croon out in their adorable voices. I myself, for years, marched down the aisles eagerly with my little sister in tow to listen to the story. That was a long time ago. They’ve been doing it every year for at least 20. Now, watching this tradition from the pews, I couldn’t help but think that while it is advertised as ‘for the kids’, it is, on the contrary, manifestly for us, the audience, and an ‘audience’ is just what we were. Much of church is theatrical – we are often at once both spectators and performers – but especially this service and this segment. I for the first time reflected: why do we call the young kids up and read them this story every year? Why is it done in the way it is? I’m not saying that anyone has underlying motives or is being deceptive, but I can’t believe it is just to tell the Christmas story to the kids, or at least… there are different kinds of answers to that ‘why’ question. Certainly, simply, ‘to read the kids the Christmas story’ is a true answer. But it isn’t necessarily the only one. To explain my initial allusion: Why do we eat so much junk food? – Well, we like sweet, fattening things. That’s a true answer. But why do we like such things? – Because of facts about our history as a species; because when we had to hunt and forage for our food, sugars were a rare source of energy, something naturally good for us which we naturally crave. But now we’re stuck with this desire, this taste, and such things are all around us and all too easy to obtain and, in the quantities in which we eat them, they become quite unhealthy. You all know this. But, so, there’s no need to be crass and call one explanation more ‘real’ than the other. ‘Because I like them’ is a perfectly understandable explanation for why a person eats sweets. We just might as well reconcile ourselves to as much truth as we are able to handle. So, do we read the story to the kids in order that they hear and learn it? Sure. Most of them are still pretty young that I’ll even concede the story or its details may still be something novel for them. But, again, why at this service? Why in this way? I’ve already indicated where I’m going. It is fairly obvious that it is, at least in some sense, for the parents, or rather the congregation as a whole. Does this then help us answer the ‘what for’ question? What is the purpose, what is the point? One cynical possibility I’ve come up with: We put our children, the fruit of our healthy, thriving church-family on display for all to see. You there, parents, church members, watch them be docile and breathe in the truths you want them to. Isn’t it cute? Isn’t it reassuring? Purportedly asking: Aren’t you proud of them? Actually asserting: Be proud of yourself. Do I think evolution explains this annual behavior pattern of ours, this ritual? Not necessarily, I wouldn’t say that. I evoke only by analogy its explanatory power. Does this Christmas Eve tradition have a social function which is able to explain its existence? – something not quite so shallow as ‘Why of course we read the story to the kids because it’s a story they should know and, heck, it’s cute.’? I don’t especially like my answer: because it makes the audience feel good. Is that an answer? Why does it? I guess I’ve already said it: we see our offspring thriving, our beliefs reconfirmed and passed on; we see ourselves being replicated. This one fleeting moment is a reassuring forecast of their future, of the future of ourselves and ours. Sneer if you will at my musings; I do not sneer at the tradition. Does this make it any less beautiful? Perhaps. I hope not. I’m not faulting them for putting on such a show. Nor do I think they should stop. I’m just … observing, thinking, seeking to understand; blah blah. I know, I know. Ecclesiastes 1:16-18 is ringing in my head. I was sharing all this with a friend and she said I should write about it. Here it is. One last thing: now, the frustrating thing about all this is: am I right? How could we tell if I was? I sure think what I have to say ‘makes sense’ but does it actually account for why we have the tradition and why it looks the way it does? – I’m not sure. Would a survey of the congregation tell us? If part of my claim is that regardless as to what the church leaders or audience members say about the ritual, there are other valid explanations for it, then I may have just cooked up some untestable theory, not very scientific. But I am, after all, no scientist. Or, well, could we test such a theory? Maybe. How? | | |
| So, I had the most ... intriguing conversation. I'm still in the process of digesting it and wanted to write it down. This is just an adaptation. I'm sure it's biased in my favor.
My friend Kaylyn is very passionate about social justice, or well... maybe that's not the best way to put it. But, she volunteers at an animal shelter and would probably describe herself as a feminist. It bothers her when people (or animals) are taken advantage of and especially when institutions or societal norms sustain and encourage such abuse. She is always very alive and has a beaming smile. I was with her and her boyfriend, Danny, out for dinner and we had a long, wonderful, stimulating conversation about the value of literature which turned into a conversation about aesthetic judgments. Danny is a philosophy graduate student and Kaylyn was surprised and frustrated to find him obstinately and rudely, in her opinion, believing that there is such a thing as 'good' and 'bad' art. After a very long debate, he attempted to appeal to her moral sense, pointing out that she certainly believed in morally good or bad things, why be so shocked that there could be aesthetically good or bad things? However, we were in turn shocked to find her vehemently denying that any action or person is good or bad. She acted surprised that we didn't already know this about her; and insofar as she found it distasteful that we could believe in 'good' and 'bad' art, she found it just as ludicrous that two graduate students would entertain the idea of 'good' and 'bad' actions. How intolerant and plebeian of us! The two of us were somewhat taken aback, not because of the position, per se - plenty of people deny that moral judgments can be objective (and/or meaningful) - but because Kaylyn certainly seems to care about moral issues.
"So, wait, Kaylyn, surely you think things like sexism, racism, and animal cruelty are wrong. That's what you learn in every single one of your sociology classes. And you delight in sharing with us statistics about the injustices of our society." "I wouldn't say they're 'wrong', I just disagree with them." "Why do you disagree with them, if they're not wrong and unjust?" "Because sexism, racism, and animal cruelty produces pain in the world." "That makes sense. But why would you care about more pain being produced in the world, if it's not pain to you? Is it because, irrespective of how you feel about it, unnecessarily and cruelly harming others is bad?" "No. I wouldn't say it's 'bad'. I just don't like it when people suffer." "That's reasonable. But, I might dare to ask, why don't you like it when people suffer? Is it just an arbitrary preference you happen to have like a flavor of ice-cream? - You do happen to like rocky-road; you don't happen to like people suffering; you don't like the color orange; you do happen to like it when animals are treated nicely? Is there a good reason for not liking it when others suffer? a reason maybe everyone has? Or is this all a matter of subjective opinion?" "I think everyone has their own reasons for liking what they like and not liking what they don't like."
Danny thought to ask: "Kaylyn, don't you try to change other people's opinions on these matters? If someone tortures cats, you disagree with this and try to stop it. How would you go about changing his behavior without trying to persuade him that his actions are wrong?" "I would tell him he is harming the cat." "But, what if he says 'Oh, yes, I know. That's the fun part.' ?" "Well, I would tell him that he's hurting me. And I'd have to hope that he is considerate of my feelings." I asked: "That's a reasonable hope to have. People should be considerate of others' feelings, shouldn't they?" "Sure." "So, if everyone ought to be considerate of others' feelings, is that a moral obligation we all have?" "Oh, well, no. You know I don't believe in moral obligations." "I'm not sure if you do or not. You said people 'should' be considerate of others." "Then maybe I'm confused about the word 'should'. I don't believe anyone is obligated to do anything because it's morally right or not do something because it's morally wrong, since I don't believe in morally right or wrong actions." "Well, then if people don't have a moral obligation to be considerate of others and it's not even a 'good' thing to do so, then why should they or, since you don't believe in 'should', why would they?" "Because it makes society work in better harmony." "That sure would be a nice thing. Would you say then that a harmonious society is a good thing, maybe something we should be striving for? Maybe actions which promote a harmonious society where everyone gets along are good and those actions which don't are bad." "No. I just think a harmonious society is better." "See, Kaylyn, you are full of value judgments though you are trying to escape moral judgments. You're saying that a harmonious society is better than a chaotic/cruel one?" "Well, that's not what I mean to say. I shouldn't use the word 'better'." "Yeah, there are a lot of words you really shouldn't be using if you don't believe anything can be good or bad."
(Danny tried to untangle the linguistic and epistemological implications of her use of words like 'should' for a while. I'm not sure if it got us very far as she just decided to forswear the use of the word 'should')
"So... just to get things straight: we're peeling away the meanings behind the value words you use that you don't really believe in and when you (happen to accidentally, against your will) say that some action is 'wrong' or 'bad' or 'worse' than some other and 'shouldn't' or 'ought not' be done, what you really mean is just that you disagree with it? - that you just don't like it?" "Yes. I would not be so presumptuous as to say that some certain action is objectively, morally wrong." "Given two cities: one where they tortured animals and one where they were nice to them, you'd say that neither is better than the other?" "Well, I'd rather live in one than another." "But that's not because one city is better than another right?" "I guess not." "So, why, then, do you prefer the one city? You feel so strongly about this that you want to stop others from doing so, even though you don't think it's 'wrong'. Why don't you like people torturing animals?" "I've just been raised in such a way that I have certain values and I just don't." "Ah, the social sciences strike again: we have no individual thoughts and make no choices. We are who our environment programs us to be. And you'd say the people who torture animals have been raised in such a way and have had certain experiences that they just happen to like torturing animals? and so we can't say that they're wrong to do so?" "Yes." "And neither yours nor the cat-torturer's preferences are morally superior to the other's?" "That's right. You know I wouldn't say that." "But you would try to change his behavior, since, after all, you don't like it. So, what you are trying to do is exert your will and make him agree with your arbitrary self-interested preferences?" "Yes." "A Nietzschean heroine! This is fascinating. But, so, if the cat-torturer enjoys what he does and it's not morally wrong and he has no moral obligation to consider your feelings, then how would you exert your will and create a world more to your liking?" "I'd share with him the facts about what he's doing." "We've been through this. He might just say 'Sure. It causes them pain. It makes people sad. So what?' But I have another question: what if you found out, for whatever reason - follow me in this thought experiment - that sharing with someone the facts about rape or racism actually made some particular individual less likely to agree with your position on the matter?" "That would be weird. I don't think that's likely to happen. If people understand the consequences of what they're doing then they'd likely change." "Change for the better?" "No! Just change their destructive behavior." "And would they be better off for it?" "Not morally; I don't know." "Well, I know what you have in mind. If you give people the science about race, the facts will reveal that their misconceptions are false. And in seeing the truth they may change their ways." "Exactly." "That's a noble endeavor. But, a lot of people are dumb. They're not big fans of statistics and facts that oppose their prejudices. What if you found no matter how much you trumpet the truth, your not-morally-superior perspective wasn't being adopted?" "Well, I guess, I'd just keep trying or try something else." "Ah, good. So, what if you found that while they weren't amenable to true facts, people would come around to your viewpoint if you persuaded them in the right way?" "What do you mean?" "Like lying to them. It's not as if you think lying is morally wrong!" "Well, I don't think lying is wrong, but I wouldn't do it because .... I just... don't want to do that." "Yeah, yeah, that's just how you were raised, or whatever. Heaven forbid you have a reason to not lie to people. But follow me in the thought experiment: what if it were effective? What if sharing with people the statistics about domestic violence doesn't do much to stop it? What if you have to appeal to their moral sense that it is wrong, maybe even sinful? What if this were effective and helped create a more just world you'd prefer to live in?" "Well, I believe the truth is important and I don't want to lie to people but I will work to persuade people to change their behavior I disagree with in whatever way I can."
When Danny and I continued to express our doubts as to her denial of a belief in right and wrong, she got pretty indignant, crossing her arms and stamping her foot, demanding to know why we would (insultingly) attribute such a view to her after all she's said. I could only tell her "I'm sorry but I think that you think it's wrong to torture cats, and not only for the reason that you happen to not like it, despite what you've told us." Danny suggested that she may have other competing values: she believes that intolerance of others and being judgmental are terrible things (or, er, not terrible in the sense that they're wrong, she just happens to not like them) and she keeps these beliefs at the forefront of her mind as she filters our questions about morality through and then carefully avoids using value-laded words. After we showed her the frequency and problem of words like 'good' 'better' 'right' 'should' and 'ought' she very often had to pause... look up... speak slowly and make sure not to use them, since, after all, she doesn't agree with them. Maybe God created mortals with an innate moral sense. Maybe evolution has made it part of our programming. Maybe she's been poisoned by society to believe such illusions. Whatever the case may be it seems to be instinctive (and at least in that sense 'natural') and she had to try pretty hard to suppress it.
She understandably unleashed questions upon us "Well, how do YOU know what is good or bad? What reasons can you come up with!? Please tell me and maybe then I'll believe in right and wrong." Danny calmly told her he didn't believe in objective morality either and was only surprised that she didn't (given her concerns for social justice) and wanted to make sure she understood the consequences of her own position. She seemed briefly surprised that he had persistently argued with her for so long, given that he was apparently on her 'side', so to speak, but had to let him off the hook [though, not wanting to give the impression that he'd backed down, he noted that he was still prepared to defend his belief that there CAN be objectively good and bad art].
She turned to me in anticipation. I wasn't quite ready to go down the road Danny took and forswear morality. Would I be able to prove to her or give any sort of argument that there are good and bad actions? Is there some moral theory I prescribe to, that I believe is true, that I believe I could persuade her to accept? Probably not, on all three accounts. I stammered: "Well, plenty of people have tried to construct theories and I suppose they're based on different things, but some folks seem to think that our being rational creatures ... just sort of entails... certain moral rules." It struck me that this is not the greatest argument because it can not be taken for granted that acting 'rationally' is always the same thing as acting 'morally'. Luckily, she left my vague gesture at a theory hang in the air and dove into specifics: "What about abortion!? How are we ever going to reach a consensus about what is right or wrong about that? Isn't it obvious that neither position is morally right or morally wrong." "Just because there isn't agreement doesn't mean there isn't a right or wrong. But more importantly, just because there isn't agreement doesn't mean we should stop caring about whether it's right or wrong. Besides, Kaylyn, I happen to know that you are very much pro-choice. Despite the fact that you claim there is no right or wrong to the matter and that your position isn't a moral one, what I've been saying this whole time is that, even if you don't realize or accept it, you probably think it's unjust to make abortion illegal - unjust in the sense that it is bad - bad in the sense that it is morally wrong, perhaps for the reason that it violates a woman's autonomy." "Well, I have my position, but I don't think it's morally right. How can we tell which is the moral one when each side says theirs is?" "Whichever ones are more... humane? That's why the debate centers around when the thing is, or counts as, a person with rights. It's impermissible to kill a baby 1 day out of the womb, presumably because it is a human being, and you can't abort it 1 day before it's due, for the same reason. But 1 day after conception? Is it a human being? Is it murder to abort it then? To take the morning after pill? The people who say 'At conception it is a person' have good reasons to think abortion is wrong. The people who say 'It is not a human being when it is just a bundle of cells' are similarly justified in thinking abortion is permissible." "Yeah, but deciding when it's a human being isn't like a fact, it's an opinion." "Well, Christians say it is a fact that 1 day after conception the bundle of cells is a human being, just at a certain stage of development." "Yeah, but it isn't a fact." "I think I probably agree with you on that point, Kaylyn. But look at it this way: some pro-choice folk may assert their opinion as fact just as the anti-abortion people. But others instead want to have a dialogue about when we want to accord 'human' status and rights on the fetus. They don't throw up their hands and say there is no morality. They may be greatly concerned with doing what is right. They want to come together to help figure it out and determine what that is." She took this as a concession that there is no right and wrong and we socially construct it. I countered that if we socially construct 'it', then 'it' is something. It's not just meaningless words. This she scoffed at.
Reflecting on the conversation I realized that this notion of a human being is central to the whole issue of morality. If a person lives his life asserting his will and making the world conform to his desires, this paints a pretty bleak, selfish, and shallow picture. Very few people are eager to admit that this is their philosophy of life. So they first stand on, and zealously preach as Truth, two assumptions: First, "Hey! don't criticize my views. I have no control over my values and maybe not even my choices. I was born how and where I was, raised a certain way, and this determines who I am. And it's the same with everyone else. There's no point in criticizing each other. We're each just equipped to believe whatever we happen to believe and we each fight for it. No one is ultimately right. If you take this objective perspective, you'll see the subjectivity of everyone's values and stop believing the silly notion that anyone is more correct than anyone else." Second, "You can't blame me for acting 'selfishly' because this is how everyone acts. I am enlightened and honest and accept my self-interested nature. It is the vulgar mass of nearly everyone else in the world who fights for what is 'right' and 'good' but, in doing so, they are doing as I am, they are merely asserting their own arbitrary preferences and calling them 'moral'."
At the heart of these twin assumptions is a claim about human nature. And the thing is, this might be just as dubious a 'fact' as the abortion issue. Kaylyn found it so frustrating that anyone could be so stupid as to think there was a fact of the matter about whether a bundle of cells one day after conception is a human being. But she has no qualms about making all sorts of claims about what it means to be human - our values and in some sense our choices are not up to us and we all pursue our own self-interested goals. The language of morality she prides herself on avoiding must have just developed as a tool to help manipulate others and achieve one's own personal desires. That is certainly a coherent picture. But, these are hardly 'facts' about human nature. That's, again, part of the delusion of sociology. Their statistics, however accurate, convince us that we are not in control of lives. That we're all just playing out the drama of our genes and our social environment. This, to me, is the very negation of humanity.
Do human beings only act selfishly to exert their own will on others? That is highly debatable; but Kaylyn seems to take it, as a fact, that, yes, they do. Are people only the sum total of their experiences? Are their beliefs and desires only determined by a series of things outside their control or do we have some stake in our convictions? If someone wants to deny that we have free will because of, say, the laws of physics, I might counter that he or she is talking about a collection of atoms, molecules, muscles, and bones, a corpse that happens to be moving towards some things and away from others. I think that part of our experience of being human is the experience of making choices (that are up to us). Similarly, I think that part of our experience of being human is our awareness that our actions have moral consequences - consequences whose value is not determined simply by it's positive or negative effects for us as individuals. Surely, I can not deny that we are indeed animals. But a beast whose only motives are self-interest is not a human being. Similarly, I cannot deny the laws of physics. If a scientist or philosopher wants to tell me that this means I must accept determinism, I can only say "If you say so" and go on living my life under the false impression that I make choices. Could we ever really live life thinking we don't? Wouldn't our lives be less meaningful and less human if we tried? Does the moral problem work the same way? Even were this an illusion (which it very well might be), could we ever really live life thinking that there aren't such things as 'moral' reasons to do or not do certain things? Kaylyn claims to. Should we join her? For many the answer is a simple "Of course". It is likely that for them 'social' concerns have replaced moral ones. I wonder whether political positions aren't always necessarily (at least founded on) moral ones.
All of this is the result of reflection. But even at the time, when she asked me what reasons there were for believing things could be good or bad, I did manage to utter that I think believing in right and wrong is just part of being human. She seemed to frustratingly find this a silly, irrational non-answer. I find her assumptions about human beings just as baffling.
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| This winter break my abstract(ly vague) principles? allegiances? were inadvertently dealt a serious blow. In fact it was kind of a one-two combination that first stunned and then floored me. Two aunts, a cousin, and my grandfather visited us for Christmas. They know I’m in graduate school but the pseudo-description “Greek and Latin … stuff” is about all they care to know about it – and I can’t say I blame them. The questions they do ask are: Do you have your Masters yet? Are you staying for the Ph.D.? and How much longer do you have? One evening my cousin, his mother, my grandfather, and I were chatting and after these standard questions someone asked what Ph.D. stands for. It’s Latin: Philosophiae Doctor – which, far from having anything to do with medical expertise, means ‘learned in philosophy’. My grandfather who was mainly just listening then surprised me by asking “What is philosophy?” Now, there are a great many who might ask this question with a sort of disdain, people who already have the world figured out. To some life’s not a mystery and any important questions are either already sufficiently answered for them or not worth asking. Religious folk – you prostrate your self and soul before the Lord and try to live a righteous life of love. Or business majors (I use this category loosely) – you make enough money to live securely and pay for the things that please you (and your family). For these, and others similar, the question is really more like “And what exactly is philosophy (good for), anyway?” However, my grandfather I could see and hear asked… genuinely. He just didn’t know. He of course has heard the word but it probably just revolves around the concepts of ‘thinking’ and ‘school’. The man never graduated from high school, was a mechanic in World War II, and then worked on trains in Chicago for a few dozen years, married for over 50 years, and himself 84 years old. The sheer fact that he was curious enough to ask filled me with a sense of excitement and dread as if I’d been offered a solemn privilege to not only explain what philosophy is, but also an opportunity to make manifest its worth and justify my own studies. True, this is an extreme caricature of the event but I could not help but believe this to be a moment of consequence even though – I realized as I opened my mouth – no one in the room wanted a lecture, but not wanting to lose this chance I blurted out something along the lines of: “Philosophy? yes, that’s the question! What is it? It turns out it’s actually all about questions. See, ‘cause, philosophy isn’t about knowing certain special truths about the world or … us … it’s not like facts… So, but then if that’s what it’s not, what is it besides asking questions?... or asking questions in a certain way? It’s kind of … well… ” I saw brows furrow and lips curl – in my head? – but charged on: “Ok, so, take the big question – What’s the meaning of life? Most people have some sort of answer to this question, either unreflectingly or unknowingly or if they they actually do, it is likely one which they inherited from their parents and philosophy wants to look at this… I mean, the meaning of life and other important questions or… really all questions more… carefully.” I’m not sure how coherent or satisfying an answer this was to them but at this point I just admitted: “I guess… I don’t really know how to explain it.. well” Realizing I just squandered a unique opportunity – my grandpa is not actually interested enough to want me to get back to him or anything; it was just a reflexive question. I had to say something.... meaningful. Flailing now, I tried to break down this monster into pieces, falling further into lecture mode and Academic-ese. “Well… so questions, right? There are different branches concerned with different kinds of questions – what exists or what is, metaphysics, or that's what it's called and what thought is, the limits of our knowledge, epistemology, and then there’s language, or like about words…” It was at this point that my grandpa said “I didn’t finish high school, you know, so you can’t be using fancy words on me” thankfully, chuckling. I decided it best to end my embarrassment and the tragedy of watching me drown and let it drop, mumbling I-don’t-even-remember-what. There may have been seeds of something true in what I’d said, but I realized that I am going to have a weight on my back until I am able to explain what philosophy is in terms my grandfather could understand. However, a day or two later I again was delivered a kick in the stomach. Killing time before we went some place, I was reading Brothers Karamazov on the couch and one of the aunts came in and turned on the TV. She soon settled on one of those revolting Jerry-Springer-esque shows, the cheating husbands, mothers on drugs, sob-fests. I am hardly poetic enough to be able to describe to you how furious I am that these shows even exist. I’ve joked with friends “Yeah, yeah, freedom of speech is great and all, but were I in charge, call me a totalitarian dictator but such shows and publications like the National Enquirer would be banned. Society would be necessarily better off. It’s because I care about people, that I want to rescue them from watching this garbage.” All the same, I couldn’t just get up and leave, revealing my arrogant disdain for my aunt to gossip about with her sister. So I sat and tried to read. My cousin soon joined us saying “Joe, did you know this guy used to be the bouncer on Jerry Springer?” Livid that a bouncer on Jerry Springer could even merit a definite article, let alone have his own TV show I responded “I did not.” The episode was about a young woman with 7 kids whose husband had just left her and, after a flood ruined most of everything they owned in the basement they were living in, she was in pretty dire straits. One of the daughters had written to Santa saying they weren’t gonna have Christmas; somehow the Steve show got it and buys them a bunch of stuff – lots of crying. Still failing to see the value in a show that just tries to stir up the viewers’ emotions (be it indignation or pity, depending on the day’s guest), I was delighted when my father walked in and said “Oh, you’re not watching this junk, are you?” (obviously many of our inclinations are inherited) But my aunt, unfazed, said “It’s Steve. He helps people.” And I realized….. he does. However much I may revile the show, I’m not cynical enough to believe that everything is staged. I mean, I do believe we’re on our way there. If a network thinks it can make money by entirely fabricating beneficence, it surely will. And I know much of the drama is rehearsed and the guests paid on many shows anyways. But, all the same, it would appear that the ex-bouncer on Jerry Springer bought a bunch of furniture, clothes, and toys for this woman and her 7 kids. As if to resist the reversal of my opinion, I thought “Well, ok, so ‘he helps people’. Great, but it’s still kind of ridiculous that people across the nation just sit here and soak up these recorded feelings. What good is it to just watch his good deeds, while not doing anything themselves? It's still ridiculous to watch this stupid show. Satisfied enough with this (but in fact disgruntled), I looked back to my Dostoevsky for half a second more fooling myself into thinking that I was any better before the book became heavy in my hands and my body literally sagged with an exhaled sigh. As it stands, the ex-bouncer on Jerry Springer does more good in the world than I do… by far (if such a thing can (at all) be measured in good deeds). The question of whether he did it for the ratings/money or because he's a nice guy may.... or may not matter. Who the fuck am I to criticize people for watching him and not actively doing anything, while I just read? It would appear that beyond explaining what philosophy is, I need to also figure out what value there is in reading literature (if any). A small miracle reinforced this lesson in humility. The very chapter I was then reading contained the following scene. I kid you not. This wealthy woman comes to the elder Zosima and confesses her doubt concerning the afterlife. And his advice is to not worry about it and instead to worry about practicing ‘active love’. She says “Active love? I love mankind so much that – would you believe it? – I sometimes dream of giving up all, all I have, of leaving Lise and going to become a sister of mercy. I close my eyes, I think and dream, and in such moments I feel an invincible strength in myself. No wounds, no festering sores could frighten me. I would bind them and cleanse them with my own hands, I would nurse the suffering, I would kiss those sores…” The elder gently interposed the following words “It’s already a great deal and very well for you that you dream of that in your mind and not of something else. Once in a while, by chance, you may really do some good deed.” She responds that although she could endure the sight of others suffering and even suffering herself, what she wouldn’t be able to handle for long is others’ ingratitude or the thought that her service in the end might not be worth very much. The elder tells her the story of a doctor who once confessed to him “I love mankind but I am amazed at myself: the more I love mankind in general, the less I love people in particular, as individuals.” My love for … or if that’s too strong a word, my… ideals about society and people at large aren’t worth anything if I can’t love people. Too many things about all this…. echoed – my attribution of ignorant disdain and inherited values to some while reveling in my own; - the elder's injunction to active love and the simple statement in response to my dad’s incredulous question “He helps people.” Forthcoming: some attempted answers and, more importantly, hopefully love.
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| "write" ? what good can come of this? wallowing in a passion before kept under wraps to make things easier and spare you tears most painful: that nothing said could bring them now maybe not even then gone
no good but, worse, no harm either just fucking words your fingers will still playfully graze and intertwine while I pretend it doesn't hurt and get another drink
you see? nothing I see "write... expression now permitted because it doesn't matter anymore"
for me then? no, not cathartic though maybe you'd hoped: transformation resolution. I'd rather scar and let it fester head turned from the self-indulgent sickening sight toward happiness toward another at least the stink would reach you I'm reduced to shamefully provoking and pathetically cherishing the one thing you could have left for me: pity or at this point disgust
Catullan enough? order up!
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